Marry out of strength, not weakness

         When you have half a person married to another half a person they don’t make a whole, they make a half. When you have a whole person married to another whole person they make something amazingly strong.

         People shouldn’t try to marry to find their other half. They should marry to get even stronger. They shouldn’t marry in order to have someone “complete” them. If you have to have someone else to make you whole then you weren’t whole to start off with.

         If you want to get married so she will cook and clean for you, you don’t need a wife – you need a maid.   If you want to get married so he will protect you and keep you safe, you don’t need a husband – you need a guard dog.  If you want to get married so someone will cheer you up, you don’t need a spouse – you need a therapist.

         If you marry out of need and loss and lack, then you will grow into that and get even needier and even emptier. It will be like getting crutches for your broken leg.  You’ll go years with those crutches, and your leg never gets used and gets weaker and weaker.  Then when the crutches go away, you can’t stand at all.  If you are only half a person, then what will you do when your spouse dies?

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About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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