Learned helplessness part 2

I knew a guy who weighed over 500 pounds.  He said that he couldn’t help it.  Everybody in his family was that large.  If everybody in his family made the same kinds of choices he did, then that would make sense.  He even had a free membership to the Y yet he spent his entire time there either drinking coffee or just floating around in the pool.  There were many opportunities for him to get healthy yet he chose to not take them.  He ate terribly, he refused to exercise.  He acted as if he had no choice in the matter.  He didn’t want to admit that everything was his choice.

It is all about choices.  Sometimes people make bad choices.  Then there are repercussions.   It isn’t fate.  It isn’t being unlucky.  It is a direct correlation to an action or inaction. You reap what you sow.  If you don’t sow anything, you don’t reap anything.   It is that easy.

Whatever you want to be, you have to do.  If you want to be healthy, you have to do the things that healthy people do.  You have to eat healthy food and eat a reasonable amount of it.  You have to exercise daily.  You have to get enough sleep. You can’t wish health into being.  You have to do it.

To get jealous of someone who has something you don’t is to paint yourself as a victim.  It is in fact why you don’t have what they do – because you have given your power away. You have said that you can’t do it.  You have chosen that. You will either find a way or find an excuse. Look at what you can do and do it.


About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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