Learned helplessness part 1

Thinking you are a victim makes you so. Blaming others for your sad state of affairs keeps you trapped there. Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right.

I knew a lady who once complained that there was a roach in her house.  She was concerned about how filthy and dirty they are. She said that she was so upset about it that she had to have a smoke.  I commented that the cigarette would cause far more damage to her health than the roach would.  She got very angry with me and then told me that my saying that made her have to smoke even more. It has to be terrible to live your life like a puppet.

I did not make her smoke.  I did not force her to do anything.  That was her choice. Look at the Nazis.  They said they had to commit all those atrocities because otherwise they would be killed.  But it is better to die clean than live dirty.  They made their choice.  To smoke is to commit an atrocity against yourself.

I knew a guy who said that he wanted to quit smoking. And then he took another puff of his cigarette.  If you want to quit smoking, quit smoking.  It is that easy, and that hard.  You are the one buying the cigarettes, lighting them, and bringing them up to your mouth and inhaling.  These are all conscious acts.  It is all something you are doing.  It isn’t something that happens to you.  It is your choice.  Quitting is hard, certainly.  Dying of cancer is harder.


About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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