When I worked at a craft store, I would always ask the customer how they were doing, and sometimes they would answer.  Only very rarely would they ask me how I was.  Once, after a long day, I started telling people how I was doing anyway.  That really messed with their minds.  I’d say with a big smile “And I’m fine too, thanks!” and they’d look at me like I was crazy.  I’d gotten the script wrong as far as they could tell.  They hadn’t asked me how I was doing, yet I was telling them anyway.

In my opinion, they were the ones who had gotten the script wrong.  If someone asks you how you are doing, you are supposed to reply and then ask them how they are doing.  There is no reason that manners stop when you are dealing with a clerk behind a counter.  Everyone deserves to be treated politely.

There’s more.  It isn’t just the asking that is the issue.  One you ask, you have to wait for an answer. Try looking the other person in the eyes.  Don’t just say the words and go on.  Make it a meaningful moment, instead of meaningless words.

I think our world has become less connected.  Cell phones and email and instant messaging and Facebook and Twitter and texting don’t seem to be doing what they were intended to do.  We can communicate faster, but not better.  We are interacting with our devices and not with people.  We seem to be actually retreating further into ourselves with all the information that keeps pouring in. We can change this trend, but it starts with each one of us choosing to make real connections with real people.


About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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