Let it out

Sometimes it is important to cry because it lets other people know it is ok to do so.  It is as if we need permission to have feelings. By leading the way with a difficult emotion, it frees up others to have that emotion too.  There is a sense of relief when someone leads the way.  Nobody wants to be the first to cry, but they definitely need to.  By crying, you let them know they can cry too.

It is very healing to let others know they can have feelings, that it is OK for them to let them out.  Our society is heavily into the idea of keeping a stiff upper lip.  We say “Boys don’t cry” – and then they grow up to be abusive and have heart attacks.  Boys should cry.  It is a natural part of being human.  Girls should get angry and yell too.  When girls get angry, they are told they aren’t “ladylike.”  Our society tries to shape our emotions as to what is OK and what isn’t based on gender.  Then we have huge rates of addiction and emotional disorders.

Let your feelings out.  If you stuff emotions in, you get out of shape.  Pressure builds up and distorts you. Go ahead.  Cry.  Yell.  Then go for a walk and maybe a nap and have some decaf tea with a teddy bear. You’ll feel better for it, and you will have done a favor to those around you.

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About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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One Response to Let it out

  1. Gretiana says:

    I totally agree with you. Crying can be very freeing indeed. It is a natural step in the healing process. I happen to believe it’s hard to get complete healing if we resist the crying part of it.

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