Sometimes it is important to cry because it lets other people know it is ok to do so. It is as if we need permission to have feelings. By leading the way with a difficult emotion, it frees up others to have that emotion too. There is a sense of relief when someone leads the way. Nobody wants to be the first to cry, but they definitely need to. By crying, you let them know they can cry too.
It is very healing to let others know they can have feelings, that it is OK for them to let them out. Our society is heavily into the idea of keeping a stiff upper lip. We say “Boys don’t cry” – and then they grow up to be abusive and have heart attacks. Boys should cry. It is a natural part of being human. Girls should get angry and yell too. When girls get angry, they are told they aren’t “ladylike.” Our society tries to shape our emotions as to what is OK and what isn’t based on gender. Then we have huge rates of addiction and emotional disorders.
Let your feelings out. If you stuff emotions in, you get out of shape. Pressure builds up and distorts you. Go ahead. Cry. Yell. Then go for a walk and maybe a nap and have some decaf tea with a teddy bear. You’ll feel better for it, and you will have done a favor to those around you.