A lot of our problems come from a need to define something as good or bad. Often we define it in relation to ourselves – does it benefit me or harm me? Often we define it in relation to our experience at the moment. We don’t have the full picture, so we decide something is bad at the time, when later when we learn more, we think it is good, or vice versa. Situations change. We change.
But sometimes the issue is that we are tricked. We are asked to define something that doesn’t need defining. Someone points out something for us to notice, and by omission we don’t notice everything else. It is a pretty powerful trick. Look over here, meanwhile the real action is going over somewhere else.
If you ask a child if she wants to wear the blue jumper or the red jumper, you’ve deftly sidestepped the issue of maybe she doesn’t want to wear a jumper at all. Maybe she wants to wear a sarong or a sweater. And maybe she doesn’t want to get dressed at all right now and wants to stay in her pajamas.
Be wary of how you are being directed and channeled. See what is there. Question why you are being questioned. Don’t get led along by others.