How does any change get done? Bit by bit. Piece by piece. It is impossible to make a sudden change for the better. Everything worth having takes a lot of time and effort.
Making any change is like starting a fire with a flint. You have to work really hard at the beginning, seemingly not doing anything. The desire is there, and the work is there, but there’s no flame yet. Then, suddenly, there’s a little spark. If you’ve prepared the area well with tinder, it will begin to burn. Then you have to have other small pieces of tinder nearby. You have to protect that tiny little flame and feed it gently or you’ll lose it. Give it a huge log to chew on and it will die.
The same is true of good habits. You can’t go from nothing to something overnight. Start small. Add a little to it as you go. Build it up. Have patience with the process. Just your desire to make a change in your life is a good start. It is the proof that you are working on it. But that is the flint.
Then you have to get some tinder nearby and a place for the fire. Have a few small tasks that you can do that will further your goal, whatever it is. Make sure they are small. Do a little of something. That will give you energy to do a little more. Trying to do too much too fast will leave you with nothing.
Then sometimes the spark will fall to the side and not on the tinder. Sometimes things don’t go the way you meant for them to. Try again. Otherwise you’re going to be left in the cold.