Fear is a terrible motivator

I finally realized that fear is a terrible motivator for change.  If we use fear as a motivator to get healthy, our fear usually ends up making us seek the very things that we don’t need.  We’d be afraid of diabetes or cancer or heart disease but instead of using healthy coping mechanisms like exercise and setting boundaries, we’ll go back to abusing substances or eating “comfort food” (which is tasty but sadly not healthy).  And then we’d be stuck in that ugly cycle again.

Love is a better motivator.  Remember the things you love that are good for you.  You love how you feel after you eat a well-balanced meal instead of junk food.  You love how you feel after you have a good night’s sleep instead of just a few hours.  You love how you feel after you’ve had a walk around the block instead of having sat around all day doing nothing.

Sometimes love can motivate you to try to be a better person.  Perhaps you love your granddaughter and you want to live long enough to see her get married and graduate from college.  Or you want to write a book that is meaningful, so you have to make time in your day to work on it.  If we are working towards something, rather than running away from something, we are more likely to have good results.


About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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