I’ve noticed that the people who complain most about the cold weather are always the same people who aren’t dressed for it. They have dressed as if the weather is what they want it to be, rather than what it is. Something seems pathological about this.
The easiest way for us to be unhappy is to focus on what we don’t have rather than what we do have. If we are living in the past or the future we are not living in the present. If we aren’t in the present, nothing will satisfy us.
When we do this, we are using the wrong template – square peg, round hole. If we try to match up our expectations of how things were in the past or how we think they will go in the future with what is going on now, we’ll rarely be happy, because then isn’t now.
Hearing someone complain about the cold when they aren’t wearing a hat or a coat is like watching someone hit their head against a wall and then they wonder why they have a headache. They always have an excuse. Perhaps secretly they just want to complain. They want to show off how miserable they are, when their suffering is entirely unnecessary.
To comment on it to them is to reward their martyrdom. Remember attention is energy, even if it is negative attention. For us to say anything, for or against, is to teach this person that their self-harming behavior is acceptable and they should continue doing it.