Don’t judge your healing. You are moving, and you have identified the disease. You are on the path to a cure. Every time you catch yourself falling into your old habits, don’t focus on the habit – notice the fact that you caught it and are changing it. Change takes a long time, and habits take a long time to undo. Be patient with the process. There is something to be said for enjoying the right now, for not waiting for the future to bring relief.
Jonah gave thanks to God while he was in the whale. He was thankful in the middle of a terrible situation. It was only after he gave thanks that he was freed. There is something powerful in this. It isn’t about praying and going through the motions of being thankful so that you will get some future goal of happiness. It is about actually being thankful in the moment.
Life is about focusing on the can, rather than the can’t. The more you focus on what you don’t have or can’t do, the less you will notice what you do have, and what you can do. Regret never built a raft.
Life is also about being thankful for what you have, right now. If you can’t appreciate what you have, then how are you going to appreciate what you will get in the future?