Fake it ’till you make it (or not)

Maybe it is best if we all stop pretending to be the same. Maybe if we all stop faking that we are “normal” we will all get to actually be who we really are for a change.

The more we all get cosmetic surgery to average out ourselves, the more the “oddball” doesn’t know he is normal.  Blind in one eye? Wear sunglasses or a patch.  Have one leg shorter than the other?  Wear a lift. Butt too big?  Wear compression underwear. Boobs too small?  Wear padding.  When we smooth and stuff and shave and shape our bodies to fit some imagined idea of “normal” we have stopped being normal. 

We do the same with our emotional lives.  We say we are fine when we aren’t.  We pretend to be on an even keel when we are angry, sad, hurt.  We fake it so often we don’t know what we really feel anymore. 

Who are we trying to appease/impress?  Ourselves, or them?  What if they are faking it too, for the same reason?  It takes too much energy to be fake.  We need to stop faking it so we can start to make it for a change.

When we start being ourselves, we give everyone else permission to be themselves too.  We let them know it is OK to take off their masks when we take off our own.

It is scary, at first, for us and for them.  But all change and growth is scary at first.  Some people might feel threatened by your new-found honesty and freedom.  Be yourself anyway.


About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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