Attractive and repulsive

When we say someone or something is “attractive” or “repulsive”, it is in relation to an “other”. It is more than “pretty” or “ugly”.  We could use those terms to explain this concept, but they aren’t as illustrative.

Think of magnets.  If they are opposite polarity, they attract each other.  If they are the same, they repel. But a magnet on its own is just a magnet.  It isn’t attracting or repelling.  So people who are “attractive” or “repulsive” are only so in relation to other people’s perspectives.  On their own, they just are who they are. It is “all in the eye of the beholder”.

Our value should not be dependent on other people giving it to us.  If we are truly to be self-sufficient and have self-esteem, our value as people has to start with “self” and not “other”. We have to see ourselves as valuable.

I don’t think seeing ourselves as “beautiful” or “rich” or “smart” is helpful either.  Those terms are still in relation to others.  In the case of those terms, others are not defining us, but we are defining ourselves in relation to others.

Simply know that you are valuable and needed, just as you are.

 

 

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About betsybeadhead

Hello, and Welcome. My name is Betsy, and I like beads and prayers. Fortunately those two things are more related than I ever realized. You are invited to “like” my Facebook page titled “Betsy Beadhead” and thus see what I’m talking about in my posts when I try to explain something using beads rather than words. This whole thing started because of that. Then I couldn't figure out how to post pictures so I just started writing. I string together words the same way I string together beads, and both serve the same purpose. I work at a library, surrounded by ideas brushing up against each other. I draw, paint, and collage. I study world religions. In all these experiences I like combining different things and making new things, and stretching my understanding of what “is” and what “has to be.” You are welcome to share my posts - just please give credit where credit is due. I'm anti-censorship but I'm also anti-plagiarism.
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