If you feel like you need other people to praise you or give you encouragement, then you aren’t self-sufficient. If you need people to say you are OK, then you aren’t. Likewise, if someone else tells you that you’re no good and it stops you from doing what you need to do, then you aren’t self-sufficient.
Other people’s opinions don’t matter. They too are struggling with self-doubt, blame, loss, anger, and sadness. They too are just human, and fallible.
Whether they are your parents, or friends, or strangers, don’t let their opinion about how you are living your life stop you, or start you. Whether you chose them in your life or not, their opinion doesn’t matter, whether it is good or bad.
This message is for everyone, but especially for anyone who is disenfranchised, such as women and minorities. You don’t need other people’s approval to live your life. Whatever they say doesn’t matter.
You are the authority on your own life. You are the author of your own life. Of course you are doing things differently from how they are doing it. You aren’t them.
Be wary of anyone who tries to knock you down, and also of anyone who tries to build you up. If they remove their praise, will you still follow your calling?